Why can’t I let go? The psychology of clutter and hoarding explained
Most of us wouldn’t consider ourselves hoarders, but perhaps if we were a little more honest with ourselves, we would find that we actually have lots of things at home we never use anymore, but just can’t bear to throw away – which is technically hoarding! Why is that?
If we generally consider ourselves to be reasonable, tidy (ish) people, how come we still struggle to totally declutter? And what about the items that we never seem to be able to throw out? There are some that prove difficult to throw away or even rehome, what’s it all about?
The hardest things to let go
Most of us tend to have a clear out once in a while. Generally considered a spring clean, we throw out the old so we can buy all the new! After you’ve worked out what’s useful and the stuff you like, the rest is all for recycling, storing or throwing away, right? Easy. Ah, but this isn’t always the case, is it? In fact, there are a few things that are particularly hard to make a decision about. See how many of these you can relate to.- Books – These often hold sentimental value because they are stories we have enjoyed. They might have been owned by a loved one, or gifted to us at a particular time.
- Clothes – We keep items in the hope that they might fit again one day or come back into fashion.
- Music – Technology has done away with the need to keep physical copies of our music, but for many of us CD’s and vinyl are collectable items and remind us of the time we first heard our favourite bands and artists. Music is an incredibly emotional thing.
- Keepsakes – from trophies we won at sport’s day, to the art work our children make for us. Even, sometimes, the old notebooks and journals we kept from our youth, these are items that bring back memories different stages in our lives.
- Childhood mementos – Sometimes it’s toys we collected or clothes we wore. Being reminded of a simpler time can make us feel like these things would be painful to throw away